What are you trying to be? Instafamous or something…”

What are you trying to be? Instafamous or something…”




A person who’s famous on the popular app Instagram because they have thousands of followers. Person is usually a pretty girl who posts a thousand pictures of her face or whatever food she’s eating. May include pictures of other people’s food.”

– Urban Dictionary

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What does being instafamous look like to you?

It might be a 20 something posting her derriere on a beautiful beach?

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What about someone who is middle aged with a bit of cash and lots of documentation of driving fast cars or chillin on yachts with pretty people?

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Maybe a network marketer plugging skincare and gut health supplements?

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Or how about a mom blogger who thinks she has perfected the art of the flat-lay and worships Pinterest?

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These seem to be the most general stereotypes that people think of when they hear instafamous… and as you can see, I’ve posted it all.

To be completely honest, if you are someone who has any semblance of a social media following that is past a few hundred followers, you have probably heard one of these:

“What are you trying to be? Instafamous or something…”

“Oh, she’s instafamous now…”

“She’s just trying to be instafamous…”

“How’s that instafame going for you…”

And there are a million more ways to say what these people are not so subtly trying to say.

But the reality is, in most cases, it’s meant to be an insult, and it doesn’t feel awesome.

Don’t get me wrong, there are a ton of people who say something along those lines and they honestly mean it as a compliment, or an innocent joke.

A playful poke not said with malice or distaste.

These are not the people I am referring to. (They are also the people who know that they are not the people I am referring to.)

I am discussing the people who seem to genuinely have an issue with the amount of followers another person has on their Instagram account.

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Please don’t ask me why it matters to them, because I could not tell you.

But since I have been asked if I am trying to be “Instafamous” in a few not so nice messages, I figured I would give answering that question a shot.

And hopefully while I’m answering it, I might impart a little insight regarding this “fame” at the same time.

First of all, I am not Instafamous.

In fact, I am quite far from it.

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At the most, I might consider myself “Insta-occassionally-recognized-among-similar-circles”.

I mean, there are people out there who literally have millions of followers.


Just let that sink in for a sec…

Now I’m over here with my teeny tiny blog waving at them from the crowd, just like everybody else.

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Second, this brings me to why many people may have a larger amount of followers than some, while still MUCH less than others.

With the way the world works today, having a following on instagram actually opens up a lot of interesting doors for people in a business sense.

Doors that happen to be pretty hard to open otherwise.

Some use Instagram to further their small business, some their modeling career.

Others use it to network with people in their professional circle and help expand their reach in their job market.

And for me specifically, having more followers helps me to get a greater audience for the thing that I really love doing. And that thing is writing my blog.

I started my blog just a little over a year ago and my reasoning for it, I can assure you, was not for fame of any kind.

Not that I (or anyone else for that matter) owe anyone an explanation, but I started blogging because I truly love to write. I love to write about… well just about anything really.

And for the first time in my life, I was able to write literally whatever I wanted and share it with other people.

To me, that in and of itself is one of the coolest things about our world today.

Think about it.

In the past you would have had to be a published author  in order to reach so many people with your words. (And there was a time when women really couldn’t even DO that!!)

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I know, ridiculous!

But now, anyone can write, about any topic under the sun, and put it out there for the world to see.

Now believe me, I understand that not all of my posts are pure gold. Haha, in fact most of them are probably more coal-like than anything.

Yet, I have gotten messages from people who have told me that they really enjoy reading what I’ve written, or that my words helped them through something because they could relate to exactly how I felt.

Some people have told me that simply reading something I’ve written has helped them to not feel so alone in this world, and then there are those that have just been stoked to try out a recipe I’ve shared.

Frankly, having just one person, say any one of those things makes writing, and expanding my social network, completely worth it.

Third and finally, if I want to share photos of my house, clothes, kids, car, face or even my derriere and other people choose to follow me and like those pictures, that is my choice and mine alone.

If I want to work on expanding my following to the hundreds or the thousands it is not up for public discussion.

You don’t have to like it, but you do have to respect it.

The same way that I respect your choice to use your Instagram account as you see fit.

So to answer your question; am I “trying to be instafamous or something?

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Not really.

Will I be “Instafamous” someday?

Who knows.

Bottom line… Should it matter to anyone else?

Abso-fricken-lutely not.

I guess what I’m really trying to say is, to those who are most concerned by the social following of others… maybe focus on yourself a little more.

Judge others a little less.

And take a quick moment to think before you speak.

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Because whether it is a misunderstanding, misinformation or even just jealously that fuels you, your words do have an impact on other people….

And I sincerely hope mine do as well.




11 thoughts on “What are you trying to be? Instafamous or something…””

  • “Are you still trying to be a wannabe blogger…?” Ugh, haters. Reading this post encouraged me to post something similar that I’ve been afraid of putting out there. Keep going and ignore the haters because they aren’t willing to / aren’t emotionally capable to do what you and every other entrepreneur does in the daily hustle. Rooting for you!

  • It is so unfortunate that people feel brave on the other side of a screen and say awful things. Instead, it is so much bette when we just support each other. Love your Instagram photos! I hope you do become insta-famous and people give nothing but positive comments!

  • You have a lot of good points there. Whether they like it or not, writers and bloggers, maybe even more so than a lot of people in other fields, have to deal with the realities of social media. It is most definitely a part of our world. Good points and good post.

  • Omg I love this post! You do you girl! I hate the judgement that comes with social media. People are so petty these days! I’m so glad you have kept writing and like to share your words 🙂

  • Running a small business is hard work and takes a lot of time devoted to social media:) I feel like I spend 60% of my time as an artist just trying to extend my audience through every avenue possible! Keep doing what you’re doing:) It’s not about fame, but about being able to do what you love and finding ways to make that happen:) Nice post.

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